Expectations...

I have been to massage done by an old friend. This was the 1st time I have gone to him, and was a bit nervous when we arranged it. My nervousness had several reasons, 1st is I am always nervous when I go to a new place, as I don't know whether I will like the person or not and how the treatment will be, I assume most of us feel the same way. Another reason I was nervous about is that I have never had massage by a friend (except my boyfriends, but that is different :)).
Anyhow I got there, got on the massage chair and all was good, he was doing a great job on my back - which is stiff all the time, so it was rather a painful experience, but it worth it at the end.
I asked him to tell me what happened to him since we met last, so he started to tell me things. At 1 point he told me he will complain about a friend of his, because he is so disappointed, so I told him to go ahead, I have all the time in the world and that is why friends are for. As I was listening, I found it funny and interesting. He told me that this friend doesn't call him - not even if they agreed that they will meet at a later time - to ask how he was etc...and I realized that he does the same thing. He says he is my friend, but he never calls me to ask how I am and we only meet if I arrange it (unless I go to his concert).
So it is all about expectations. When something is important for us, but we need others to help us achieve it, we always feel that everyone should feel the importance of that one specific meeting, occasion and we expect our friends to support us in every possible way. But in the meantime we forget that there might be other things which take priority in our freinds' lives and they might forget to call / text us and maybe they even cancel our meeting.
So I wonder what my friend would say if I would tell him that it makes me sad that he doesn't return my calls and he doesn't send me the date for my next massage. It is important for me, he could help me, still he is not doing it - or not in the timeline I expect.....